Showing posts with label Dating. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Dating. Show all posts

5 Clues that She’s Long-Term Relationship Material

When you are on the hunt for a meaningful, long-term relationship it is common to feel like every person you meet falls short. Indeed, there are many people out there who are simply uninterested — consciously or unconsciously — in making a commitment to another person at this point in their life. In fact, as individuals, we all need to go through a cycle of change and maturity before we are able to enter a meaningful, healthy long-term relationship.
If you know you are ready, though how can you tell if the person you are interested in is, as they say, a “keeper” who feels the same way?
Psychologists and relationship experts have put a lot of time and research into figuring out exactly that. They have found a few, key personality traits that all women (and men) who are truly ready to settle down need to posses.

1. She Is Self-Accountable

Also known as being emotionally mature, self-accountability is about more than being a “grown-up.” Someone who is self-accountable takes responsibility for her actions and faults. Someone who is self-accountable will recognize negative influences on her behaviour and take steps to correct or eliminate them. She will listen to criticism openly. She will not focus on ego or “winning” over real improvement in her relationships.Pretty woman walking down the street
Once people reach a point of emotional maturity, they develop a sense of self-respect and autonomy that avoids placing blame on others or the past.
This makes being in a relationship now easier because she recognizes it as independent of other events in her life. Likewise, an emotionally mature person is ready for a long-term relationship because she understands that she cannot compensate for or “fill” voids in her life with other people — including you!

2. Humour Is an Essential Aspect of Her Life and Relationships

Woman jogging and smilingBad things happen. Embarrassing things happen. That’s life. However, working past the bad, the embarrassing, even the depressing, is a whole lot easier when you can laugh at it.
Seeing the humour in situations provides us with a resilience that makes disappointments easier to weather.
However, humour can also be destructive. Someone who is ready for long-term commitment understands that difference and doesn’t use humour to belittle or to get out of discussing uncomfortable feelings.
Rather, the humour that she sees is often reflective of herself or the foibles of life. And, most importantly, she shares that humour or even just a smile with you at times when you need it most.

3. She Can Handle Her Emotions

Just like a toddler who learns how to self-soothe and fall back asleep without calling out in the middle of the night, women ready for commitment understand how to take care of themselves when under duress rather than take it out on you.
When people are overstressed, they tend to have negative responses. When you learn to recognize those signs in yourself and go inward, rather than lash out, you are at a place where you can maintain a healthy, long-term relationship.
The key here is being able to self-manage bad situations so that you don’t say things you don’t mean, do things you regret, or start arguments just because. When someone recognizes her own triggers and manages them effectively, she is better able to correct the situation and move on in a productive way.

4. She Is Open to Change and Embraces It

Woman flexing musclesLife is all about change and keeping things interesting. By embracing the inevitability of that fact, even welcoming it through large and small gestures, you are better able to deal with that change.
When someone is ready to commit to a relationship, she understands that the situation, you, her, everything, will not always be the way that it is now and she’s okay with that.
From trying a new recipe because you want to eat less meat to looking into a new career to reinvent herself, embracing and accepting change and growth within herself allows the relationship to change and grow around you both.

5. She Is Grateful

Woman surprising man with a giftGratitude is one of the most powerful emotions we can have, especially when things look bleak. Being able to step back and say “thank you” either to a person or the universe, in general, allows us to put life into perspective and maintain a positive outlook.
Relationships are tough, and if you cannot embrace the good aspects and be thankful for them, you will never make it through the not-so-good times.
From a simple “thank you” when you take out the trash to truly appreciating who you are together when you have a partner who is grateful for what you do have, working on what you don’t is a lot easier.
Also be mindful to the tips on building a healthy relationship to ensure a harmonious, happy relationship. Good luck finding the right girl to settle down with!

7 Adventurous Date Ideas You Should Try

Are you and your sweetie in a dating rut? Whether you have been married for decades or have just been seeing each other for a few months it is easy to fall into comfortable, familiar patterns when you are together. There is a reason that dinner and a movie is a classic.
However, having fun together is one of the keys to a lasting bond and thinking outside the box in terms of activities, locales, and even times for dates can help you do just that.
No matter your budget, your time, or your physical abilities, there is an adventurous date out there for every couple. Here are a few ideas to get your own creative juices flowing.

1. Act Like a Kid AgainWinter couple snowball fight

Amusement parks, both the traditional and the water-filled versions, are not for the under 12 sets alone. Experiencing classic spaces or discovering new rides as an adult is a completely different experience from what you remember as a child.
As a couple, riding everything from roller coasters to a lazy river allows you to step away from the “serious” aspects of life and have a little fun.

2. Feed Your Need for Speed

Whether you love NASCAR and Formula One or simply love pushing the pedal to the metal on the freeway, racecar and go-kart courses are a great way to play it fast and loose, literally!
Depending on your budget, driving skills, and location, options include everything from getting behind the wheel of a real racing vehicle to riding along with a professional driver.

3. Get a Little Messy

From colour runs to the gruelling Tough Mudder circuit, working out together has never been so much fun. If you are both already in shape, just sign up for one of these unique and memorable races. If not, take some time to hone your skills and build your stamina before embarking on a new course together.

4. Load ’em up and Shoot ’em Out

If both you and your sweetie are okay with guns, a date night spent at the shooting range can be a really exciting, stress-relieving experience. Most ranges require that users take safety classes first, and others require that you bring your own gun. Make sure you check out these details and remember that anytime a firearm is involved safety is the key.

5. Rough It

This is not for everyone, but camping offers couples a unique opportunity to bond by taking them away from the distractions of the modern world. By unplugging for the weekend or even just one night, you give over to each other and are forced to find ways to entertain yourselves without modern comforts.

6. Get Creative and Silly

If you are especially bold and especially broken, there are still a ton of ways to be fun and adventurous on a date.
Like little children engaging in pretend play, design games as you walk around your home town or down crowded city streets. Use fake names, draw hearts with messages in chalk on random sidewalks, or grab your camera and a pair of boots and make a photo diary of a “Day in the Life of the Invisible Man.”
You can even stage a series of photos that suggest you went on an adventure and then post them online to goof your friends and family.

7. Go Somewhere Random

Depending on your time, and your budget, there are two ways to do this. The faster and cheaper is to get into the car or onto public transit and go somewhere you have never been before, be it a neighbourhood or a town.
Happy couple racing on bikesIf you have the time and the means, an even more adventurous idea is to go to the local airport or train station and buy two tickets on the cheapest next departing flight/train and stay wherever it ends up for the weekend.
A relationship should be treasured, with each passing moment spent with him/her cherished.
Are you doing everything right but still feel something missing? If so, then it’s time to check with a trusted breakup/relationship coach, Brad Browning, to help you get your relationship back on track.

How To Make A Man Fall In Love With You

You found him. Something about this man takes your breath away. You want him to be yours and yours alone. But first, you need him to fall in love with you.
Whether you’ve been dating for a while and want him to commit to you fully, or you’ve never even said two words to each other, I’m going to give you simple advice that will help you take him off the market for good.
South Park love skit

Make A Man Fall In Love With You

The first step is to get him interested. Next, you’ve got to get him to chase after you. Once you’ve got him hooked, it’s all about making him happy. And finally, you have to become so important to him that he can’t imagine life without you.
If you play things right, he’ll be head over heels in love with you before you know it.

Make Him Want You

This is the first step. Unfortunately, there’s no magic potion that will make him fall in love with you at first sight. You have to start at the beginning and work towards that passionate, long-lasting love.

Be confident

If you’re afraid to approach him, then you need to find another way to get his attention.
Whenever he’s around, you should do your best to project an aura of confidence, fun, and comfort. If it’s possible, have a conversation with a friend while he’s nearby. If you’re laughing and having fun, pretty soon he’ll be wondering what’s so funny.
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Smile

It’s simple but effective. Flashing him a quick smile is a good way to show him that you’re interested.
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If he’s already into in you, this will let him know that he has the green light.
If he’s never thought about you in that way, then it will make him start.
Whether this is a guy you’ve known a long time, just met, or have only admired from afar, a short glance and a smile is a great way to get things started.

Flirt

The first step with flirting is body language. How you communicate with your body is extremely powerful.
When you’re nervous, your body will instinctively communicate that feeling, by the way, it’s positioned and that won’t do you any favors.
To start, open yourself up. Uncross your arms, sit or stand straight and tall, and keep your head high.
This sends the message that you’re approachable and interested. Being more open will make men comfortable talking to you.
woman with good body language
When talking to him, maintain eye contact. This shows him that you’re engaged in the conversation.
From there, just be present and keep the conversation going. You don’t have to flutter your eyelashes or lip whipped cream off his finger for him to get the picture.

Make Him Chase You

Imagine you’ve just been on a date with a guy. He’s handsome, charming, and makes you laugh. The date went well and you’re looking forward to a second.
The next day he calls you. You don’t answer, so he calls you six more times and leaves a bunch of voicemails. Did alarm bells start going off?
Men feel the same way. If you’re too eager, then he’ll get the sense that you don’t have a lot else going on in your life.
It sends a signal that you’re very available which means you’re not in high demand, which means you’re not very ‘valuable’.
At this stage, every interaction makes an impression whether you like it or not and if you’re too available it just makes you seem desperate.
You may be saying, “Any guy who thinks like that is a superficial jerk,” but he’s not even aware of it. Millions of years of our evolution attract people to high-value partners.
Natural selection may seem harsh but if you understand it, you can use it to your advantage.

How To Play Hard To Get

Making a man fall for you is a cat and mouse game. If you’re very goal-oriented, you’re probably used to going out and getting what you want.
This is a useful mindset for most situations but when you’re trying to land a man, you need to be subtle and take it slow. Remember: fools rush in and you’re no fool.
There’s the reason “playing hard to get” is a classic dating tip but it’s more complex than it seems.
It’s not about disappearing at midnight and leaving only a glass slipper for him to find. You still want to be available just not too available. You want to be open to his advances but always leave him wanting more.
man chasing woman
There are some simple things that will have him chasing after you without even knowing it.
To keep the chase alive, let him be the instigator. That’s not to say you can’t hint that you’re interested, but when he’s the one initiating plans and contacting you, you’ll be giving him the kind of challenge that will get him hooked.
When he does come calling, don’t be too quick to say yes. Instead of dropping everything to be with him, tell him you’re busy and reschedule later on.
This way he’ll see that you have a full life and he’ll want to be a part of it.
He’ll have to work for your time and attention, which again, makes you that much more of a prize to be won. This alone is giving him something the women he’s casually sleeping with aren’t.

Don’t Rush Things

Yes, I’m talking about sex. Sex is a part of life and whether or not you have it doesn’t reflect on you as a person but if you want to build something long-lasting, consider holding out for a little while.
You don’t have to be a nun but don’t give it up on the first date even if you really want to.
If he’s really interested in more than just sex, he won’t mind.
The idea behind waiting for sex is that you want him to keep chasing you long enough for him to develop deep feelings beyond physical attraction. You want him to treat you the same way he did while he was still trying to get in your pants.

Make Him Happy

Obviously making each other happy is one of the most important things. How can you love someone if they don’t make you happy? If you can create a positive association between your presence and his happiness he’ll fall for you over and over again.

Do The Little Things

Guys aren’t used to girls being romantic so bringing him flowers and opening the door for him probably aren’t the best ideas to win his heart.
But if you’re looking to make him swoon, remembering what’s important to him is enough.man in love
Surprise him with a dinner that you know he likes. Ask him his favorite movie and then watch it with him. The point here is that you’ve taken note of something he’s said and acted on it.
Just like women, men like to feel like they’re noticed and valued.

Say Yes

It’s important to be agreeable. Don’t agree with everything he says but don’t shoot down his ideas, make him feel stupid, or argue just for the sake of it. You can still tease him and have those fun, flirty fights but only about stuff that isn’t actually serious.
Ideally, this will happen naturally. If he’s someone you want to be with the long term then you’ll probably see eye to eye on a lot of things. Still, often opposites do attract.
Sometimes it’s his strange way of looking at the world that made you want him in the first place. Keep that in mind and try to go along with him when you can. He’ll appreciate your willingness to indulge him and you’ll be surprised where you end up.

Make Him Need You

Making him need you is about adding value to his life. The longer a relationship goes on the more you become enmeshed in each other’s lives. This dependence on one another is one of the building blocks of love.
You’re naturally going to rely on him as well. When you ask him to drive you to the airport or open a jar for you, it makes him feel like a big shot, but don’t be a burden.
Make sure that you’re putting in more than you’re taking out from the relationship.couple watching movie
For starters, appreciate him. Men love to be appreciated by their woman, so make a point not only to thank him for all of the things he does but also to show him how you feel.
This could mean paying for dinner, helping him pick out a birthday gift for his mom, or looking after him when he’s sick.
Show him that you’re not selfish and that you genuinely care about his happiness. This goes a long way with any guy.
If you can be the person he goes to for support or a comforting shoulder, then he’s going to keep you around.
You’ll find him reaching out to you and you two will spend more and more time together. This is the easiest path to falling in love.

How Long Does It Take To Fall In Love?

romeo and juliet in love
For Romeo and Juliet, it took about five minutes, but we all know how that turned out.
The boring, real answer is that it varies. There are no hard and fast rules in love and this is no exception.
If he’s not taking you seriously or is unwilling to be exclusive, try my Devotion System program. I’ve spent years researching how to make a man stick by your side for good.
But as I’ve said, don’t rush it. If he says he loves you on the first date, he’s either lying, he doesn’t know what love is, or he’s a few cards short of a full deck.
It takes time to build the kind of love that lasts.
Don’t worry about when he says “I love you.” While it is an important step, it’s not the best way to tell if what you have is real. What’s important is whether or not the relationship is moving forward.
Ask yourself these questions
  • Does he spend time with you?
  • Has he hung out with your friends and family?
  • Can you rely on him when you’re in a jam?
  • Does he open up to you about his life, his hopes, and his dreams?
  • Does he do all he can to make you happy?
  • Do you have a future together?
These are the markers of love. If you can honestly say yes to these questions, then congratulations, he has officially fallen for you!